The Truth About Caring
What you see is not always what you get.
I can't remember where or when I heard this but the frank and bare truth it revealed struck me so fast and hard.
"We care for people who care not because we are overflowing with noble intentions of attaining World Peace but because of the conscious or unconscious knowledge that they make our lives noticed."
We are living in a jampacked place with everyone having their own say and their own sense of importance. We are only an itsie bitsie part of a humongous puzzle and our significance is not readily seen much less appreciated.
Imagine what would happen if everyone could be just an island. What would happen if solitude was the better option for living?
We care for people who care because they make us feel important. They make us feel as if we are worth being noticed and that our lives can make a difference and leave a mark.
If you are able to live without interaction, then your life would not be remembered. Your will be erased from history. No one will ever know you existed. No one will learn from your mistakes. Your life would have then been useless. If this were the case, you should not have lived at all.
Like what my friend quoted from I'm-not-sure-where, "Six billion people in the world, six billion souls, and sometimes all you need is one."
There are times when one person is enough to make you feel you are worthy of living. That one person is your diary. That one person will remember your thoughts, opinions, ideals, and mere memories. You will not be forgotten. He/She will learn from your mistakes.
Amidst all the other people who don't know you and will never care about you is that one person willing to share your story to others who'd listen.
In the end, your life will outlive your body. The body will decay but your memories will be salvaged - kept safe by the persons who care.
Labels: mottos, truth, wisdom
Rantings
What you see is not always what you get.
Speaking one's mind is everybody's right. No one can and should tell you what and what not to say. This is the use of our free will and living would be completely insignificant if we deny ourselves the natural right to opinion.
We all have different points of view. All are equal and should be respected with the same degree.
This right, however, should always come in pair with a regulator. One should always examine the situation before actually commenting. This is where opinions differ. Some people just lash out without thoroughly thinking everything through. They just say what they want to say without realizing the consequences of their actions. They usually end up hurting not only the persons involved, but they themselves. They are too frank and too straightforward.
Others are too weak. These persons think. Yes, they can weigh the different sides of the story but they never really decide which side they are on. They'd rather agree on everything. They may point out and throw in a few points to further the cause but in the end, they really had no say. They just copied what others thought. I am not saying this is not a good thing. They might have been thinking of the same thing but has only actualized it after being exposed to others' ideas.
Others are perfect. I am not pertaining to never-wrong-always-right decision makers. I am speaking of the people who know how to decide all by themselves and are willing to make adjustments after a few effective outside influences. They may never be right, but at least they could be proud about being the one making the error and learning from it.
Nothing beats first-hand experience.
So who is who? I think I am a weak thinker. I usually agree on everything someone tells me. (Of course, only from those I look up to) I love establishing my beliefs based on what is effective for others. But then again, I still think I do have my own opinions for some things. So I could be a mix of the last two. I could also be too frank. That side of me, however, has been buried ages ago. She may haunt me once in a blue moon when I'm with my closest friends but that's the worst she can do.
I still think that the becoming of a young adult is the consequence of the parents' guidance - or lack thereof.
Ergo, I believe that a child's ability to establish his/her own beliefs is greatly, if not entirely, affected by how the parents brought him/her up.
I'm still confused. Did my parents do a good job?
Labels: life, mottos, random, truth, wisdom
Not tonight.
What you see is not always what you get.
Tomorrow is our fourth and, hopefully (if we get exempted from the finals), last exam for the laboratory part of our summer course Zoology. I should be studying. I should be cramming my butt off trying to answer all questions in the manual. I should be finishing everything laboratory-ish - not sitting here in front of the computer making an unproductive entry about not studying for tomorrow.
I should be studying but I am not. Maybe it's because there are only tomorrow and friday before I go back to Pangasinan and finish some personal agenda. Maybe it's because there are only 4 school days left before summer classes are over. The things that keep me from studying are far from what I thought I prioritized - then.
Family is important. I should know that family should be up on my list. I am going to the premier state University not only because it offers quality education (and for personal development) but also because it is practically more affordable than others. Knowing this, I strive to graduate and get a high earning job to support my family. All these I do for them; but what would one do with all the education he/she has acquired if he/she has neglected or worse, forgotten, the reasons he has pushed so hard for it. Since my visit to Pangasinan is a family affair, it is only right for me to request for a few adjustments in school.
Psych10 in school taught us that life can be grouped into boxes where the different dimensions of your being lie. Their is family, love life, friends, school, work, and any other things you consider part of who you are. The course taught us that when in stress, you have to know that it is only one box in your polydimensional life that is 'temporarily' crumbling. If your love life sucks right now, that does not mean your whole life is ruined. You have other boxes to open and be grateful for. So when you get tired of School, why not try delving into, let's say, Internet?^_^
I love the saying 'Never let education interfere with your learning.' It holds so much ground that I could barely stop myself from laughing at my old self who thought that life is all about studying. I thought life revolved on constant studying for a far-off test. Now I realize that education is just a part of learning. There are many things we should be experiencing now. Life is too short to wait for graduation. It is even shorter to wait for retirement!
All things being said, I resolve not to study tonight. I will concentrate on my philosophies and hope that,once again, cramming will work it's magic tomorrow.
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Labels: life, mottos, plan, wisdom
See Me?
What you see is not always what you get.
There is something satisfying in loving what you do. When others think of it as a burden, you think of it as a challenge. That is what I do.
I have gone past the stage of bitching about almost everything in life. Exams, curfews, lack of money - they're all pain in the butts.
Now I have realized that there's no point in sulking around and getting grumpy about things we can not avoid. We are going to take exams, miss curfews and lose money more than once in our lives. So what can we do? Since life is about living it optimally, then we should think of a better and more productive way of looking at things.
Before I entered college, I would have complained about how tedious and how tiring doing the yearbook is. I would have done it just because it is my responsibility to do so. But that was then. Now, I am even enjoying what I am doing. I like the responsibility. It makes me feel useful. It lets my creative flow juices. I am having fun keeping in touch with my batchmates. There are more to the yearbook than just mere layouts and edits. The by products are more than enough to keep me going.
There are two mottos I always keep in mind. These are mottos I have picked from reading through our materials in school.
1. Practice does not make perfect. Perfect practice makes perfect.
2. The thing that separates ordinary from extraordinary is that little extra.
These really applied to me and my lifestyle. I have always been an "okay na yan" person. Whenever we do projects, I always end the job saying "okay na yan". Contrary to what other people say, I was not a perfectionist. I guess now I am. Hehe! Now, I try to put everything in what I do. There will only be that one time to do that one thing. So why settle for anything less than the best?
I have only lived for seventeen years. (okay, almost 18 years. grr) But they always say I sound like "the old wise man/woman". I have always been like that. I guess that's what makes me different. Yes, I could be childish and hyper. But there is this side of me (apparently a little apparent) that analyzes almost anything and putting that wisdom into good use.
I am a youthful old person. That is who I am.
Labels: friends, life, me, mottos, truth, wisdom, yearbook
